A gentle contemplation process for improving self-worth with The Ten Stages

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEP0njALcLzW194v3wMZdQTVveLH26CBZ6wrV13EVdCg6SpWk7Yd-gHQaniJhsO6o5nDfmRtDr266os_HmZG6L_QJeWVDZGPweVqf-NUpVdPk6pmf0pdjArwe-2LNNjUMMOykbKptryD0/s1600/1-higher+power.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEP0njALcLzW194v3wMZdQTVveLH26CBZ6wrV13EVdCg6SpWk7Yd-gHQaniJhsO6o5nDfmRtDr266os_HmZG6L_QJeWVDZGPweVqf-NUpVdPk6pmf0pdjArwe-2LNNjUMMOykbKptryD0/s1600/1-higher+power.jpg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: medium;"><br /><i>Calm,Tide and Ripples Contemplation and Reflection. An average contemplation should not take longer than ten minutes. If it takes much longer, we are “thinking” (rehearsing, calculating) too much.<br /><br />A gentle process for improving self-worth: This program is aimed at raising our self-worth gently and consistently. Just write down the first word that comes into your head</i></span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><i>Week 1<br />Self-responsibility to me means…<br />Independence to me means…<br />Thinking for myself means…<br />Trusting my own mind means…<br /><br /><br />Week 2<br />If I operate five percent more self-responsibly today…<br />If I think for myself today…<br />If I bring five percent more awareness to my deepest needs and wants…<br />If I bring five percent more awareness to what I truly think and feel…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 3<br />If I am more straightforward about what I think and feel today…<br />If I operate five percent more self-assertively today…<br />If I treat my wants and needs with more respect today…<br />If I express myself calmly and with dignity today…<br />If I want to translate these ideas into action…<br /><br /><br />Week 4<br />If I pay more attention to my inner signals today…<br />If I am more truthful in my dealings with people today…<br />If I am five percent more self-accepting today…<br />If I am self-accepting even when I make mistakes…<br />If these ideas start working in my subconscious mind…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 5<br />If I disown what I am thinking and feeling…<br />If I place other people’s thoughts above my own…<br />When I look at what I do to impress people…<br />If I fake who I am to make myself “likable”…<br />I am beginning to suspect…<br /><br /><br />Week 6<br />If I am more accepting of my feelings today…<br />If I deny and disown my feelings…<br />If I am more accepting of my thoughts…<br />If I deny and disown my thoughts…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 7<br />If I am more accepting of my fears…<br />If I deny and disown my fears…<br />If I were more accepting of my pain…<br />If I deny and disown my pain…<br />Right now it seems obvious that…<br /><br /><br />Week 8<br />If I am more accepting of my desire to be liked…<br />If I deny and disown my desire to be liked…<br />If I learn to manage my desire for approval…<br />If I can acknowledge my desire for approval without being controlled by it…<br />If I want to translate these ideas into action…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 9<br />If I am more accepting of my deepest self…<br />If I deny and disown my deepest self…<br />If I am more accepting of my intelligence…<br />If I deny and disown my intelligence…<br />If I allow myself to understand what I am writing…<br /><br /><br />Week 10<br />Self-responsibility means…<br />If I am more accepting of my thoughts and feelings, whether or not anyone shares them…<br />If I deny and disown thoughts and feelings others do not share…<br />If I betray my thoughts and feelings in action…<br />If I honor my thoughts and feelings in action…<br />I am beginning to suspect…<br /><br /><br />Week 11<br />If I imagine being more self-responsible…<br />If I imagine being more independent…<br />If I imagine looking at things through my own eyes…<br />If I take five percent more responsibility for the ideas I live by…<br />If these ideas start working in my subconscious mind…<br /><br /><br />Week 12<br />If I honor my judgment today…<br />Sometimes I keep myself passive when I…<br />Sometimes I make myself helpless when I…<br />If I pretend to be less than I am…<br />If I allow myself to absorb what I am writing…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 13<br />If I bring five percent more integrity into my relationships…<br />If I take five percent more responsibility for my choice of companions…<br />If I take five percent more responsibility for my personal happiness…<br />If I take five percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 14<br />If I lived five percent more authentically today…<br />If I treat my thoughts and feelings with respect today…<br />If I experiment with being more self-assertive today…<br />If I am willing to see what I see and know what I know…<br />If I fully face the meaning of what I am writing…<br /><br /><br />Week 15<br />If I hold myself accountable for my promises and commitments…<br />If I stop all excuse-making and alibiing…<br />If I refuse to surrender to helplessness…<br />If I were willing to say “yes” when I want to say “yes” and “no” when I want to say “no”…<br />I am beginning to suspect…<br /><br /><br />Week 16<br />If I were willing to let people see who I am…<br />If I took more responsibility for delivering on my commitments…<br />If I operate five percent more self-responsibly at work…<br />If I operate five percent more self-responsibly in my relationships…<br />If I choose to translate these ideas into action…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 17<br />If I stay connected with what I truly think and feel…<br />If I take more responsibility for fulfilling my wants…<br />If I refuse to blame anyone…<br />If I make my happiness a conscious goal…<br />Right now it seems clear…<br /><br /><br />Week 18<br />If I look people in the eyes and tell the truth today…<br />If I refuse to be ruled by fear of disapproval…<br />If I refuse to hide who I am…<br />If I am simple, honest, and straightforward today…<br />If I allow what I am writing to fully penetrate…<br /><br /><br />Week 19<br />If I bring five percent more integrity to my relationships…<br />If I remain loyal to the values I believe are right…<br />If I refuse to live by values I do not respect…<br />If I treat my self-respect as a high priority…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 20<br />If I accept responsibility for my life and well-being…<br />If I accept responsibility for my choices and decisions…<br />If I accept responsibility for my actions…<br />If I accept responsibility for how I deal with people…<br />If I choose to translate these ideas into action…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 21<br />If I want to grow in independence, I will need to…<br />If I want to grow in self-esteem, I will need to…<br />If I want to be more authentic, I will need to…<br />If I want to outgrow dependency, I will need to…<br />If I am willing to experiment with these ideas in action…<br /><br /><br />Week 22<br />If I look at things through my own eyes today…<br />If I am willing to see what I see and know what I know…<br />If I am truthful today, even if it’s difficult…<br />I grow in self-respect when I…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 23<br />If I operate five percent more self-responsibly today…<br />If I operate five percent more self-assertively today…<br />If I operate five percent more authentically today…<br />If I operate five percent more honestly today…<br />Right now it seems clear that…<br /><br /><br />Week 24<br />As I grow in self-responsibility…<br />As I grow in independence…<br />As I learn to say what I truly think and feel…<br />As I learn to look at things through my own eyes…<br />If these ideas start working in my subconscious mind…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 25<br />Sometimes when I am afraid of self-responsibility I…<br />Sometimes when I am afraid of independence I…<br />If I want to outgrow any fear I have of self-responsibility…<br />If I want to outgrow any fear I have of independence…<br />I am beginning to suspect…<br /><br /><br />Week 26<br />One of the things I’ve been learning through this program is…<br />As I notice when I am being self-responsible and when I am not fully…<br />As I notice when I am being authentic and when I am not fully…<br />As I notice how I feel when I am honest…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 27<br />I feel most proud of myself when I…<br />I feel least proud of myself when I…<br />If I give myself credit for my willingness to struggle…<br />If I give myself credit for my dedication to personal growth…<br />If I allow myself to understand what I am writing…<br /><br /><br />Week 28<br />As I learn to translate what I am learning into action…<br />As I continue the struggle, even when it’s difficult…<br />If I choose to persevere, no matter how long it takes…<br />One of the ways I am changing is…<br />I am beginning to suspect…<br /><br /><br /><br />Week 29<br />As my understanding of self-responsibility deepens…<br />As my understanding of independence deepens…<br />As I learn to be more authentic when dealing with people…<br />As everything I am learning takes root in my subconscious mind…<br />I am becoming aware…<br /><br /><br />Week 30<br />As I learn to operate at a higher level of self-responsibility…<br />As I learn to operate at a higher level of independence…<br />As I learn to pay more attention to what I truly think and feel…<br />As I learn to treat myself with more respect…<br />As I go on translating these learnings into 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A gentle contemplation process for improving self-worth with The Ten Stages

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