Calm,Tide and Ripples Contemplation and Reflection. An average contemplation should not take longer than ten minutes. If it takes much longer, we are “thinking” (rehearsing, calculating) too much.
A gentle process for improving self-worth: This program is aimed at raising our self-worth gently and consistently. Just write down the first word that comes into your head
Week 1
Self-responsibility to me means…
Independence to me means…
Thinking for myself means…
Trusting my own mind means…
Week 2
If I operate five percent more self-responsibly today…
If I think for myself today…
If I bring five percent more awareness to my deepest needs and wants…
If I bring five percent more awareness to what I truly think and feel…
I am becoming aware…
Week 3
If I am more straightforward about what I think and feel today…
If I operate five percent more self-assertively today…
If I treat my wants and needs with more respect today…
If I express myself calmly and with dignity today…
If I want to translate these ideas into action…
Week 4
If I pay more attention to my inner signals today…
If I am more truthful in my dealings with people today…
If I am five percent more self-accepting today…
If I am self-accepting even when I make mistakes…
If these ideas start working in my subconscious mind…
Week 5
If I disown what I am thinking and feeling…
If I place other people’s thoughts above my own…
When I look at what I do to impress people…
If I fake who I am to make myself “likable”…
I am beginning to suspect…
Week 6
If I am more accepting of my feelings today…
If I deny and disown my feelings…
If I am more accepting of my thoughts…
If I deny and disown my thoughts…
I am becoming aware…
Week 7
If I am more accepting of my fears…
If I deny and disown my fears…
If I were more accepting of my pain…
If I deny and disown my pain…
Right now it seems obvious that…
Week 8
If I am more accepting of my desire to be liked…
If I deny and disown my desire to be liked…
If I learn to manage my desire for approval…
If I can acknowledge my desire for approval without being controlled by it…
If I want to translate these ideas into action…
Week 9
If I am more accepting of my deepest self…
If I deny and disown my deepest self…
If I am more accepting of my intelligence…
If I deny and disown my intelligence…
If I allow myself to understand what I am writing…
Week 10
Self-responsibility means…
If I am more accepting of my thoughts and feelings, whether or not anyone shares them…
If I deny and disown thoughts and feelings others do not share…
If I betray my thoughts and feelings in action…
If I honor my thoughts and feelings in action…
I am beginning to suspect…
Week 11
If I imagine being more self-responsible…
If I imagine being more independent…
If I imagine looking at things through my own eyes…
If I take five percent more responsibility for the ideas I live by…
If these ideas start working in my subconscious mind…
Week 12
If I honor my judgment today…
Sometimes I keep myself passive when I…
Sometimes I make myself helpless when I…
If I pretend to be less than I am…
If I allow myself to absorb what I am writing…
Week 13
If I bring five percent more integrity into my relationships…
If I take five percent more responsibility for my choice of companions…
If I take five percent more responsibility for my personal happiness…
If I take five percent more responsibility for the level of my self-esteem…
I am becoming aware…
Week 14
If I lived five percent more authentically today…
If I treat my thoughts and feelings with respect today…
If I experiment with being more self-assertive today…
If I am willing to see what I see and know what I know…
If I fully face the meaning of what I am writing…
Week 15
If I hold myself accountable for my promises and commitments…
If I stop all excuse-making and alibiing…
If I refuse to surrender to helplessness…
If I were willing to say “yes” when I want to say “yes” and “no” when I want to say “no”…
I am beginning to suspect…
Week 16
If I were willing to let people see who I am…
If I took more responsibility for delivering on my commitments…
If I operate five percent more self-responsibly at work…
If I operate five percent more self-responsibly in my relationships…
If I choose to translate these ideas into action…
Week 17
If I stay connected with what I truly think and feel…
If I take more responsibility for fulfilling my wants…
If I refuse to blame anyone…
If I make my happiness a conscious goal…
Right now it seems clear…
Week 18
If I look people in the eyes and tell the truth today…
If I refuse to be ruled by fear of disapproval…
If I refuse to hide who I am…
If I am simple, honest, and straightforward today…
If I allow what I am writing to fully penetrate…
Week 19
If I bring five percent more integrity to my relationships…
If I remain loyal to the values I believe are right…
If I refuse to live by values I do not respect…
If I treat my self-respect as a high priority…
I am becoming aware…
Week 20
If I accept responsibility for my life and well-being…
If I accept responsibility for my choices and decisions…
If I accept responsibility for my actions…
If I accept responsibility for how I deal with people…
If I choose to translate these ideas into action…
Week 21
If I want to grow in independence, I will need to…
If I want to grow in self-esteem, I will need to…
If I want to be more authentic, I will need to…
If I want to outgrow dependency, I will need to…
If I am willing to experiment with these ideas in action…
Week 22
If I look at things through my own eyes today…
If I am willing to see what I see and know what I know…
If I am truthful today, even if it’s difficult…
I grow in self-respect when I…
I am becoming aware…
Week 23
If I operate five percent more self-responsibly today…
If I operate five percent more self-assertively today…
If I operate five percent more authentically today…
If I operate five percent more honestly today…
Right now it seems clear that…
Week 24
As I grow in self-responsibility…
As I grow in independence…
As I learn to say what I truly think and feel…
As I learn to look at things through my own eyes…
If these ideas start working in my subconscious mind…
Week 25
Sometimes when I am afraid of self-responsibility I…
Sometimes when I am afraid of independence I…
If I want to outgrow any fear I have of self-responsibility…
If I want to outgrow any fear I have of independence…
I am beginning to suspect…
Week 26
One of the things I’ve been learning through this program is…
As I notice when I am being self-responsible and when I am not fully…
As I notice when I am being authentic and when I am not fully…
As I notice how I feel when I am honest…
I am becoming aware…
Week 27
I feel most proud of myself when I…
I feel least proud of myself when I…
If I give myself credit for my willingness to struggle…
If I give myself credit for my dedication to personal growth…
If I allow myself to understand what I am writing…
Week 28
As I learn to translate what I am learning into action…
As I continue the struggle, even when it’s difficult…
If I choose to persevere, no matter how long it takes…
One of the ways I am changing is…
I am beginning to suspect…
Week 29
As my understanding of self-responsibility deepens…
As my understanding of independence deepens…
As I learn to be more authentic when dealing with people…
As everything I am learning takes root in my subconscious mind…
I am becoming aware…
Week 30
As I learn to operate at a higher level of self-responsibility…
As I learn to operate at a higher level of independence…
As I learn to pay more attention to what I truly think and feel…
As I learn to treat myself with more respect…
As I go on translating these learnings into action…
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